Assisting a loved one with activities of daily living is not always an easy task. There may be times when they simply will not cooperate with you. This can pose a serious dilemma if mom or dad requires assistance with personal care such as toileting, bathing or dressing, for example. Although this can be frustrating as you are just trying to help, rather than becoming upset, there are a few key phrases that can be used to help get your loved one to cooperate.
- Who do you want to help? First, this question gives your loved one choice, while reminding them that the task needs to be completed. In many cases, seniors are simply embarrassed by their need for help, especially if someone of the opposite sex or their adult child is assisting them with personal care activities. If you are the only person providing care, you may also want to consider hiring a professional in-home caregiver to handle sensitive tasks such as bathing or dressing. Sometimes a senior just wants someone else to help them and will be more cooperative simply because they don’t feel as uncomfortable. Click here to learn more about professional hourly caregivers in Naples.
- Here, you do it. While this may seem counterproductive if your loved one needs assistance, it is the opposite. Handing mom or dad the wash cloth and having them to start the bath can go a long way. The adult child can then continue to talk to the parent as they normally would and nonchalantly begin to help. This decreases resistance, gives power to the aging adult and accomplishes the activity.
- We are going to… Giving the senior choices can be a great motivator, but some may always have a reason why it is a bad time. In these cases, you must limit available options and not pose providing assistance as a question. Gently letting your loved one know that something is being done and getting started is more definitive and offers less opportunity to decline. This may be especially helpful for seniors with Alzheimer’s or those experiencing cognitive changes.
These simple phrases are great ways to instill a sense of independence for your aging loved one while still ensuring that the appropriate personal care activity is completed. For more information about caring for an aging parent or loved one at home, contact the premier Naples home care provider, Home Care Assistance. We are available 24/7 to answer questions and offer complimentary, no-obligation consultations where we can discuss care needs and concerns. Call 239-449-4701 to speak with a Care Manager today.